The idea of accepting things as they are is the basis of mindfulness. However, it can be such a challenge to accept things when it brings forth emotions of frustration, sadness, anger, etc. Sometimes life can feel hard and it's at those times that we need to give in to the lessons that are being presented to us. All too often, we try to run away from "negative" emotional states and circumstances. However, being able to face those circumstances and emotions head on will allow them to pass through with less of a struggle. It's the idea that the joy will arise after the sadness has been faced, nurtured and let go. Greeting your sadness with tender loving care will allow it to lift on its own time and with more ease.
During my time at the UCSD South Bay Radiology Oncology yesterday, we offered a series of wellness workshops with the message of cultivating health, building community, connecting to supportive resources and facing the challenges of diagnosis. Being faced with cancer challenges you to your edge. It stirs up emotions, fears and relationships. What I have found to be a helpful, yet hard truth, is this concept of the need to accept all that arises so you can learn to go with and grow from it. I can now look back at my diagnosis of cancer and be thankful for it. I did not feel that way at the time, however I am thankful because it gave me the motivation I needed to live a sober life. It gave me a sense of empowerment of how to make conscious choices over my wellbeing, including how I manage my stress, relationships, food choices, etc. I will never truly know why I got cancer, but I can look back and be thankful for being able to pull through it and for being able to create a more healthy and sustainable life.
Want more on this topic? Read the poem I wrote below…..
Fighting the hand you were dealt, will not make it go away.
My preacher teacher of a woman says, you got to learn to use your resources faithfully.
Take the time to breath deep and let in the healing.
Reach down to the depths of love that rest upon the center of your heart.
Release the pain, while your teardrop hits the page of past torment and abuse.
Your voice and body are yours to claim.
LOVE them well.
Search for peace in your heart and comfort in your soul.
For healing happens when you let time and love in.
Take them steps,
for fighting the hand you were dealt will not make it go away.
Learn to use your resources faithfully.
Take the time to breathe deep and let in the healing.
Sending peace and love your way!
Liz Myers, MA, PCCI
Certified Mindful Life Coach
Liz Myers, MA, RYT200
Spiritual Life Coach, Yoga and Meditation Teacher.
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