Experiencing physical pain and/or injuries can be a tough space to settle into. We often are not aware of the parts of our body until they begin to ache. These body parts are expressing their voice, asking for nurturance and attention. When you feel this pain, try not to shy away from it. Bring a gentle awareness to this aching space. Accept it's presence, knowing it is speaking to you with purpose. Allow yourself to sit with this pain and let emotions and feelings arise without judgment. You may ask it to leave you, knowing it will on it's own time. The asking is important, however you must be able to sit with the time it takes to release on it's own. Asking for the pain release without expectations is key.
Just like the breath comes and goes, so does pain. It's important to remember, this too shall pass! The painful moments we experience now will leave us eventually. Placing awareness, compassion, and nurturance towards these moments will allow for the release of pain to happen in a more gentle way.
Just like we hope to hold onto moments of happiness, it's in the letting go where we can feel truly free. Letting go of your grip to control pain, pleasure and happiness will allow for a more gentle experience as you learn that each moment is a temporary one. A moment we can only capture with true presence. Each moment is a new experience, one that will arise perfectly just as it is meant to, without expectation, without lasting, without holding. Simply breathe it in and let it go with ease. This will allow for a more gentle and accepting flow of moments whether it holds pain, pleasure or anything in between.
~ Liz Myers, MA Rooted Living Wellness Coach.
Do NOT compromise your health for the monetary cost. I often hear people avoiding the doctor’s office, treatment options and other medical care because they are worried about the monetary cost of these treatments. Please do not use cost as a reason to avoid seeking treatment. You can push through the fear of monetary loss and debt when you face the reality of your health and your life. The sooner you seek treatment, the less it will cost you overtime. As you let medical concerns fester, they will increase the likelihood of needing more serious and costly intervention methods down the road.
Your spirit was here before money existed and it will continue to live off the air we breathe, the love we receive and the support of the community and loved ones that surround us.
If you are feeling sick, go seek medical treatment, period! Do not allow money to prevent you from getting the healing and care you deserve. When health issues arise, many fears can come into play. Fear of trusting the doctors to provide the appropriate diagnosis and treatment plan. Fear of choosing the right mode of treatment when the options have been laid out. Fear of what might happen if you go through with a surgery or other major procedure. Explore all of your options, face your medical concerns, and seek out support from friends and family. Always take some time to look inward for your own wisdom on what feels right for your body and life.
Please know you can always apply for hospital assistance programs, makes payment plans, etc. Money will always come and go and that’s just a fact of life. Your breath will leave you eventually, but it will last longer if you take good care of it and treat it when it begins to falter.
~ Liz Myers, MA Rooted Living Wellness Counselor
Creating a daily practice to ground yourself can be instrumental with your ability to stay focused while you sift and sort through the many options and decisions that come your way.
I have the great pleasure of knowing so many "go-getter" types of people. They are in the know, on the go and creating all along the way. However, I do see a certain challenge with these go-getters being able to balance all of the opportunities and people that come into their lives.
Having a daily grounding practice can be an easy yet very effective way to stay connected to your roots while you also soar towards the sky. Coming from a "grounded" place means you are in tune with your inner wisdom. You are in a more calm state, which allows you to connect to your deeper values, those very same values that ultimately drive your decisions in your life. You can choose anything that supports you to connect inward and to feel a sense of calm.
If you don't yet know what grounds you, then go out and explore! Try out different calming activities: meditation, tai chi, listen to serene music, go for a walk, breathe deep, close your eyes, play music, paint, write, etc. Listen to how your body feels, pay attention to how your mind moves and how your emotions arise. Pay attention to those moments that provide a calming, grounding and centering effect. These are your yin grounding practices. Invite them into your life!
My daily practice includes a morning mediation. It tends to last about 20 minutes. That's all I need to get rooted and ready for my day. Throughout the day, if I feel overwhelmed, rushed, or simply just getting caught up in it all, I can take a moment to return to the meditative state that supported me from the morning. I can return to that state by stopping, breathing deep, and connecting inward. It only takes a moment, yet its extremely powerful. I have successfully implemented this daily practice within the past year. However, I resisted the daily practice for a long while. I honored it sporadically until the calling to practice daily was too powerful and effective to ignore.
I invite you to try out some type of daily grounding practice. Be gentle with yourself and start with just a minute of grounding today. Try it out and see how it feels. If it feels right, agree to return to it as daily as possible. Don't worry about the consistency of the practice in the beginning. Start small and allow it to grow on it's one time. This grounding takes practice and persistence, but believe me its so worth it. YOU ARE SO WORTH IT!
~Liz Myers, Rooted Living Wellness Coach
Visual supports are easy and motivational tools you can use to facilitate your transformation process. Whether you are looking to strengthen your physical body, ignite your soul, invoke peace or anything else in between, placing a visual image of this goal up in your home or work place will provide a simple psychological advantage.
You can draw the picture, cut it out of a magazine, write words, etc. Find an image or words that represent that which you are seeking. Place the image or words in an area where you will see it daily. You can even write on your mirror with a dry erase marker so you will be sure to see it daily.The more you see the image, the more it will be placed in your mind. It has a natural way of seeping in so you can focus more on that which you are seeking.
The picture in this blog post was essential to my personal health transformational process. My body went through multiple surgeries and injuries. Seeing this image along with words of strength and love supported my ability to stay focused on the healing process. When I felt pain and despair, I looked up to the image to remind me that my body was once strong and whole. The body does not forget how to repair and it does not forget the strength it once had. You can repair always return to a sense of health, strength and well-being with a strong focus on nourishing these cells back to health. Visual reminders keep you focused on the steps you need to take while it also triggers the bodies positive health memory. Allow the image to keep you focused on the solution instead of the problem.
As always, be sure to include patience, compassion, and a slow unfolding during your process. I hope you will find a keen place for your image or words that will support your focus for transformation!
~Rooted Living Wellness Coach, Liz Myers, MA
The Implementing Health Change workshop is fast approaching and in honor of this workshop, I would like to share one key concept to being successful in the transformational process.
This simple powerful concept can be articulated by the following: “What you think about expands”. This concept invites you to focus more on what you would like to incorporate and cultivate into your life instead of focusing on what you would like to cut out.
Try this on for size. Lets say you are trying to let go of reacting with anger when things do not go your way. Ask yourself- is it more helpful to think about not being angry or to focus on how you would like to cultivate feelings of peace? When we focus on the “not doing”, it can create a sticky mind mess because it makes us think of the "not doing action/reaction" instead of focusing on what would be more helpful in that moment.
Take a moment to think of one thing you are trying to do less of in your life. Now take a moment to identify what it is that represents what you would like to incorporate instead. For example, less anger = more peace, less sadness = more joy, less sugar = more healthy foods, etc. Focus for awhile on the MORE part of the equation. You may find this helps your mind, body and spirit to focus more on what you need for greater balance.
The more you can focus on expanding those areas you would like to cultivate, the more you will see them coming into your life. On the contrary, if you focus on what you do not want in your life, you may see more of it wherever you go. Again, the expression, “What you think about expands”. So be careful of your focus.
When implementing health change, begin by focusing more on what you would like to invite in instead of what you would like to cut out.
~Liz Myers, MA, Rooted Living Wellness Coach
Have you asked your heart how it's feeling? I often check in with my best friend about how her heart is feeling. She is one of the most caring nurturing people I know. She opens her heart freely to all those around her. This can be an extremely loving and fulfilling place to operate from. However, when the people she is caring for are not in a good space, sometimes it can wear heavy on her heart. Check in with your heart and see if it needs any extra love, healing and/or opening today.
Try out this heart centered meditation. Begin by finding a quiet space to sit and relax for a bit. Sit upright so your spine is aligned properly. If sitting upright is not comfortable, you can find a gentle space to lie down. Begin by focusing on your breath. Just observe how it moves in and out, without judgment. Simply feel your breath as it enters your body providing a renewing relaxing quality to your entire system. Feel your breath as it releases from your body into the universe. Continue to feel and observe your breath, letting each breath relax you further. Let in the rejuvenating qualities of the air while you let go of any stress or worry as you breathe out. When you are ready, begin to deepen your breath just a bit on both the inhale and the exhale. Allow for a little pause after you breathe in fully, and allow for a little pause after you breathe out (this breathing technique allows for deeper slower breaths with silent spaces in between).
You may place your hands on your heart when you feel ready. Simply observe how it feels to connect the energy of your hands to your heart. Observe how it feels to connect to this powerful life-breathing organ within. With your hands comforting your heart, ask your heart how it feels. Allow any feelings or emotions to arise just as they may, without judgment. This is a chance for your heart to be open and to receive the warmth of the energy from your comforting hands. Sit with the emotions and feelings that may arise for you here. Ask your heart what it needs in this moment. Allow a flooding of unconditional love to pour over and into your heart. Visualize your heart receiving this abundance of love as it heals any hurt that may be present. See the colors that arise, allow the feelings to float through you. Continue to breathe love and healing into your heart while you breathe out any emotions weighing it down. See and feel your heart mending and healing as you continue to breathe and receive the love and comfort it needs.
When you are ready, you may add in sound to this heart centered meditation. Take a deep breath in and let out a "YAM" (pronounced "Y-AHH-M") as you breathe out. YAM is the mantra used to open your heart chakra. Repeat this mantra 3 times. Take a deep breathe in, hold your breath at the top and let out a YAM. Continue to focus on your heart as you chant YAM out loud or silently in your heart. As you chant YAM, you can invite a bright beautiful green light to ignite all the love within your heart and being (the color associated with the heart chakra is green).Continue to breathe and receive as you open and heal your heart with this beautiful green healing light and sound vibration of the YAM.
Check in with your heart regularly. Ask how it's feeling, especially on those heavy heart days. You can come back to this bright green energy flow and loving touch with your healing hands whenever you need it. Connecting with your heart in this way will naturally open your heart and keep the positive flow going.
Much love and light!
Liz Myers, Rooted Living Wellness Coach.
Do you ever feel like you can't seem to get enough rest? You have a hard time figuring out who to say yes to and who to say no to? How do we find this balance with our commitments to ourselves and to all those around us?
Someone once told me when you say "no" to someone else, you are saying "yes" to yourself. I had a hard time grasping this concept at first. However, when you come from a place of saying "yes" to every opportunity that comes your way, it can spread you too thin, leaving you to feel tired, worn out and sometimes a bit resentful. On the flip side, saying "no" to opportunities based on fear or a lack of inner awareness can lead you astray as well.
If you find yourself in this predicament, it's time to sit down and get clear about your values and priorities for living. Ask yourself the ways in which you need to contribute to yourself, your loved ones and to the community. What really fuels your heart, passion and sense of well-being?
Try out this balancing values activity. Find a quiet uninterrupted space for about an hour or as long as you need. Take this time to go inward so you can tap into your own inner wisdom. Use the mode of expression you enjoy most, whether it's journaling, drawing, painting, etc. Take some time to visually express the different opportunities, roles you play, and events happening in your life. Allow yourself to be free with this expression: try to avoid editing what comes out.
When you have completed this free flow portion of expression (some call it a brain storming session), focus then on sorting out your underlying values attached to these opportunities and roles. Your value system ultimately determines how you prioritize your time and what is most important to your daily living. Some examples of values may include: having a strong sense of family or maybe it's making a lot of money or cultivating a spiritual way of living. Take some time to sort through your top 10 values for living. Then chop them down to your top 5. Ask yourself how well you are cultivating and honoring these top 5 values in your life. Are you spending time on them daily? You have to first carefully choose the seeds you want to plant and then you must add daily nourishment to these seeds in order for them to grow and flourish.
The next step in this values activity is to go back to your free flow expression representation and see where your values fit in to these roles and commitments. Use this as a guide to sort through some of those pondering "yes" and "no's". Use this as a guideline to address the moments when you must say "no" in order to say "yes" to these values and priorities. When you honor your priorities and gifts, it naturally empowers others to do the same. You will be able to have more focus and commitment to what matters most. The need to please others and to hold onto guilt will lessen greatly.
Be patient and gentle with this process. Being in balance with the inner wisdom of the "yes" and "no" takes time and practice.
~ Liz Myers, MA Rooted Living Wellness Coach
A famous humanistic theorist, Carol Rogers spoke of this concept called, "Unconditional Positive Regard". This concept centers on ones ability to accept another person completely without judgement and without conditions.
Unconditional Positive Regard promotes a supportive accepting heart for each person. When we invite others to be completely free with their thoughts and actions, it can open them up to a more authentic way of being. This complete acceptance allows for great expansion, growth and a renewed sense of inner self-confidence. Those useless concepts of being criticized, judged, and failing are completely lost and total acceptance becomes the way.
Take a moment now and focus on a judgment you may have of yourself or another person. Really take in how this feels on all levels of your being. How does it feel in your body, in your heart, and your mind? How does it make your spirit and soul feel? Take a moment now and reverse that way of being. Focus on completely accepting this situation and embracing it with love and acceptance. It can be helpful to use the "inner child" exercise for this loving embracing and accepting way of being. Simply envision yourself or the other person as a young child, say 6 years old or whatever age that comes to you.
Approach this situation with the same kind gentle heart you would use to comfort and engage with this child. Now ask yourself how this loving, accepting, and unconditional approach feels in your mind, body, spirit, heart and soul? Does it give you a greater sense of ease?
Letting go of judgments of yourself and others can be a challenge. However, I invite you to try out this concept of "Unconditional Positive Regard". When we accept others completely, we can accept ourselves more completely, thus inviting authenticity for all those around. And you might just find a little more lightness and feelings of freedom in your heart.
I've found this can also lead you to feel a greater sense of peace with the past, present and future. It can lead you to a place of peace of what was, as the past happened just the way it was meant to and provided the lessons necessary for your growth. It can provide a sense of peace with what is, allowing for the present moment to arise without expectations. Finally, it can provide a sense of peace of what will be by letting the future unfold the way it is meant to without the need for prediction.
I hope this unconditional positive regard will support a free flow of acceptance of each moment with an inspired open heart.
~ Liz Myers, MA Rooted Living Wellness Coach
Liz Myers, MA, RYT200
Spiritual Life Coach, Yoga and Meditation Teacher.
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