According to psychologists, Miller and Rollnick (2002), "Perceived prognosis influences real outcomes" (p.6). This means our perceived belief (s) about our ability to be successful with something is the highest predictor of what will actual occur. Essentially, our beliefs set the foundation for the outcome. It's just like that expression, "whether you believe you can or you believe you can't, either way you are right"!
In the psychology world, we often ask about "limiting beliefs". These tend to be beliefs, which are rooted in a falsehood about yourself. These types of beliefs may be based on fear, negative past experiences, external or internal judgments, etc.
Take a moment now to focus on something you would like to pursue or cultivate in your life. Then ask yourself how likely you will be to succeed at making this happen. You can even rate it on a scale of 1-10 to make it feel more quantifiable. The answer to this question, as Miller and Rollnick indicate (2002), is a "reasonably good predictor of the likelihood that change will occur". So, if your answer is an 8 than you will have a high likelihood of being successful with this endeavor, however if you answer with something like a 4, than some limiting beliefs are seeping in.
Furthermore, this belief factor does not only resonate on a personal level, but it extends to those around you. How much a friend, colleague, lover, therapeutic provider, doctor, etc. believes in you can have an effect on these outcomes as well. When you have the support and faith of those surrounding you, your beliefs in success grow stronger. The power of belief can have an effect on so many levels. For example, how much you believe in yours doctors’ competency to provide you with the appropriate treatment for optimal healing. Or, your belief in your own bodies' ability to repair and heal from an injury. Or your belief in your ability to be an amazing public speaker! The list goes on.....
The ways we can work with these "limiting beliefs" is to first uncover and discover what they may be. Being brave enough to face what makes your belief in something resonate with a 4 on the scale as opposed to a 10 is the first step. Find out what false beliefs are weighting you down. Seek out ways to cultivate new empowering beliefs and support for yourself. Seek out those who you trust and you believe in you for support while you navigate through new powerful positive belief structures.
Once you believe, you will discover the beautiful powerful divine light inside. The limits will slowly but surely fall away one by one.
Be on the lookout for my Fear Breakthrough Workshop: "Breaking Through Barriers" coming to San Diego soon.......
~Liz Myers, MA, PCCI Rooted Living Wellness Coach
Miller, W. R., & Rollnick, S. (2002). Motivational interviewing: Preparing people for change (2nd ed). New York: Guilford Press.
I have many inspirational people in my life. People who boldly share their light, talent and gifts with the world. Many of these people could be described as unorthodox; those who may not fit into that neat cookie cutter type of mold. I truly appreciate these inspirational people as they are a constant reminder that each person's inner light is their own unique spark to cultivate and share with the world.
As I listened to one of these amazing inspirational people share their wisdom yesterday, I was left with a resounding quote that continued to play over and over as I left the room. This quote, by Howard Thurman, goes as follows:
“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”
The assignment from this inspirational speaker was to meditate on what "makes you come alive"? Simply pay attention to the places, spaces, people and activities that make you feel most ALIVE. Where are you when that inner light feels most bright? What makes you feel more comfortable to share that light?
Being aware of when that inner bright light is being fueled is the first step. Then following through with the boldness to share with others consistently is the next practice.
Take some time today to cultivate awareness of your inner light. Bring a sense of wonder and curiosity to when you feel the spark being ignited. When you have cultivated the awareness of this light, engage in the practice of honoring it and boldly sharing it with yourself and others throughout your days. When you honor and share your light with the world, you naturally inspire others to do the same. Be the inspiration!
Liz Myers, MA, PCCI - Rooted Living Wellness Coach
Part of cultivating wellness includes a healthy dose of nutritious food. Today, I would like to highlight the benefits of Collard Greens. Embracing those beautiful greens in your life can add a powerful low-calorie and nutritious boost to your well being. Collards are some of the most nutrient-packed vegetables around. They have well-over the recommended daily consumption of Vitamin K and Vitamin A. Vitamin K is essential for keeping your inflammatory response at a low level which is key to maintaining healthy organ function as well as a happy immune system. That fabulous dose of Vitamin A keeps you looking and feeling good as it supports healthy skin and keen eyesight.
Keep this in mind: both Vitamin A and Vitamin K are fat-soluble vitamins. This means you should consume these vegetables with fat. Adding a small amount of oil or animal fat to your greens is an easy way to assist the body's ability to absorb these vitamins. Adding avocado or nuts and seeds to a kale or collard dish are other great ways to get in a good fat so your body can soak in these vital nutrients!
Collards also have a good amount of soluble and insoluble dietary fiber that helps control LDL cholesterol levels and offers protection against hemorrhoids and constipation as well as colon cancer.
When seeking out the perfect collard at your local farmers market, search for unwilted, firm, and vibrant green leaves. Steer clear of leaves that are yellow or brown. Be sure to avoid the wilt factor by placing your precious collards in the fridge before enjoying them.
Happy green eatings :-)
~ Rooted Living Wellness Coach, Liz Myers, M.A., PCCI
Good morning fabulous readers! Yesterday, Rooted Living Wellness was featured on Thrive Talk Radio. The subject: "Cultivating Mindfulness Techniques". Many people ask me what mindfulness is really all about. Mindfulness is being able to be present and aware of the present moment. It's being able to be a silent observer of what is arising in the moment without judgement. It's a practice of cultivating awareness of your internal experience.
Being mindful is something you can do at any time, in any moment. One of the most simplest ways to cultivate a mindfulness practice is by paying attention to your breath. Take a moment now to become aware of how you are breathing now. There is no need to change how you are breathing, there is no need to judge how you are breathing. Simply watch your breath as a kind observer. Observing your breath in this way can bring you to a deeper place of awareness of what is happening in your internal experience. It can bring a certain slowing to your day.
People ask me why it's important to cultivate mindfulness practices. The ways of the outer world can often be overwhelming, fast, distracting and abundant. It can be fun and exciting to get caught up in the busyness of the world. It can also be distracting to your internal experience. It takes a delicate balance to stay in tune with your internal guide; your wise intuition. Taking the time to practice mindfulness on a daily basis can help you to stay centered with your wise intuition so you can navigate the outer world with a natural flow. It can support your ability to be aware of how you are experiencing things in the moment.
Cultivating a practice of mindfulness takes an awareness that you would like to be more present in the moments of your day. If you discover that you would like to cultivate more presence in your day, then start small. Focus on your breath for a few seconds and just observe. Take a gentle yoga class and allow your thinking mind to rest, even if it's for a few seconds. Focus instead on paying attention to what your body is doing. Many people respond well to movement-based mindfulness practices as our bodies are used to being on the move. Try out walking meditation. Simply step as sloooooowly as you can. Feel each part of your heel as it touches the floor, slowly allow the ball of your foot and each toe to touch the ground. It's in the awareness of the details and the slowness of the movement which allows for present feelings and emotions to arise. For more on cultivating mindfulness practices, check out the radio spot below. Enjoy!
~ Liz Myers, MA, PCCI, Rooted Living Wellness Coach and Founder
Life's certainty rests upon the constancy of change. We often suffer when we do not like the change that has occurred and/or that of which is occurring now. Being with the change is the way to eliminate suffering. Hence, going against the change is what makes the suffering happen.
It can be easy to move with change when we label it as positive and/or something we were hoping for. However, what can you do when you have a change in your life such as a traumatic event, physical injury or illness? Do you simply accept this change and go with it?
Being able to face the occurrence and accept that it is happening is the way you can avoid adding an extra layer of pain and suffering.We often avoid facing painful occurrences by stuffing them down, ignoring them, using drugs, alcohol, food, media, and other ways to escape. As we know, what we resist, persists. The more we can step into the change, move with it and cultivate a level of compassion for it, the more ease we will feel with it.
It's in the adapting to the change where we can understand our true nature and abilities for this life. Being accepting of the happenings outside of us can support our ability to work with what is, rather than being in a state of wishing for what isn't. It's natural to wish for good health and have hopes for good health. It's in the accepting of your current state of being that will bring you to the next step in adapting to how things are. Going with the change and being present with emotions that may arise with this change brings about your ability to adapt, grow and be with this change so you can move through it.
One thing that is certain is that our lives and our health will change, fade, morph, etc. It's in how we embrace and listen to these changes that we can see our strengths and ability to adapt to what life chooses to give to us.
When you are in a space where you may not want to go with these changes, I invite you to follow some of these words from the Loving Kindness meditation. These words can fill your heart with hope, joy and happiness. Give these words to yourself, your friends, acquaintances, and those who you may be having some conflict with. Feel these intentions in your heart. Knowing that some "dangers" may occur in your life, yet you can seek refuge in knowing you can adapt and adjust to anything that comes your way when you accept it's happening.
May you be filled with lovingkindness.
May you be safe from inner and outer dangers.
May you be well in body and mind.
May you be at ease and happy.
~ Rooted Living Wellness Coach, Liz Myers, MA, PCCI
Liz Myers, MA, RYT200
Spiritual Life Coach, Yoga and Meditation Teacher.
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